Wednesday, January 21, 2009

I'm not ready for this.

So it's official. My Nana is dating Bill. He's a nice enough guy. But not only are they dating they are talking about marriage. WTFreak? Since when does dating lead to marriage? OK, so I know I'm being a tad bit irrational...but dang! I'm just getting used to seeing him in my Papa's house without cringing. And I'm still trying to deal with seeing them holding hands and giggling like a bunch of teenagers. I told her she better slow down and she said, "We won't do anything you wouldn't do." WELL, that's just freaking Great, NANA! And with that I told her, " Well, if you can't be good then you might as well be good at what you do." She giggled and I'm hoping it's because what I said was funny and not because she was agreeing with me.

I really am happy for her. It wouldn't be SO bad if she wouldn't have said the words "marry" and "February" in the same sentence. That just makes me feel sick. I really don't care what she does or who with as long as she doesn't do it in that house. I mean, if she wants to get married that's fine. I just hope she moves to a different house.

American Idiot?

I watched American Idol tonight. I like the first few shows especially because all the crazys come out and audition. I have to say that they have had a few really crazy ones this year. But my favorite so far has to be the girl that came with the stuff she printed off line about singing. Like she was trying to make herself knowledgeable about vocal coaching overnight or something. And Ryan asked her if she got it straight out of Health class and she said no the internet. That was pretty funny. And she kept making up words and pronouncing words incorrectly. Like trachea. She kept saying tra-she-a. And then Ryan corrected her. Hahaha. But the two funniest parts was when she said she messed up singing because she used the wrong rectum? OMG! Me and mom almost died laughing. Dustin said maybe she was looking at the diagram upside down. LOL! And then after it was over she said something like, " If they could have ear-rack-a-tate me." WHAT the HECK does that even mean? I know it's not a word. Or two words blended even. I couldn't even spell it so I just spelled it like she pronounced it. Too Funny!

Underlying Issues

I am a smart girl. No, I didn't go to college. And Yes, my Grammar and punctuation suck. But I'm still pretty smart. I am constantly thinking which gets annoying but I can usually figure things out. Well, People things that is. I'm usually pretty good at helping others out and I have a tendency to try to be helpful. And I know it probably gets annoying for others. But that's just how I am. I guess if I am helping other then I don't have to try to fix my own stuff. It takes me a little longer to get a grasp on what is going on with me. But it's a process. There are signs and you just have to read them. I just don't usually analyze myself very much because it makes my head hurt. Most of the time when little things start to bother you there is an underlying bigger issue that really is the problem. I can start to tell when this happens to me. I get all nit picky and everything gets on my nerves. I'm usually pretty patient. So then I start trying to figure out what the "real" issue is. And that can be sort of hard to figure out about yourself. If I know other peoples situations I can usually pick out the problem pretty easily. But I have learned that you can not point out the obvious because people tend to freak out. You just have to let them realize it on their own. And also I usually know how to fix the problem. But like I said, it's hard to do that stuff on yourself.

I have been messed up for quite sometime. I wasn't really sure what the problem was but the main thing is I didn't even want to deal with it anyway. I just got to the point where it was like everything was just shut down. I couldn't feel anything. I was just sort of numb. I could cry about things that were not really important. Like for instance if something happened on a television show or the news. Or if I heard about something really bad happening to someone else. I could cry for all those things. But not about something happening to me. Nothing was getting to me. Like I said, it was like I was shut down. Like I had an off switch. I didn't really care about the things that were happening to me. I mean, I cared about some things but nothing was really able to effect me. So I started acting out I guess. Trying to feel something. Anything.

And that was probably the worst thing that I could have ever done. It started to make me question who I really was. For a long time, I have known who I am and what I stand for. I'm not one of those people who just go through life with out any purpose. I believe everyone has a purpose whether they know it or not. But like I said, I started to question. And as soon as that started happening then other things started to come back up. Issues that I had already dealt with and overcame started to become issues again. I started to feel like I was starting over.

But then I realized, I'm not. I have come to a place in my life where those things should not matter. And now they only matter again because I opened myself back up to those things.

So how do I fix it? I have no idea. But I have been thinking a lot about that underlying issue. And I think I may have found the source. So maybe if I can fix it then everything else will fall back into place. Maybe. :)

What is it with men?

Dustin has been complaining that I spent too much time online. Well, that may be true but still. It kinda makes me frustrated. I mean, I don't say... well, you work too much. I know it's totally different but whatever. I am ranting here. :) And then he let me get unlimited text messaging but gets mad when I get texted. Men are so confusing sometimes! I mean it would be different if I were constantly texting which I am not doing. Or if I was texting at really inappropriate times or something. Or even if we were doing something and I started texting. But the main thing is that we are not. If he wants to spend time with me then great. Maybe he should say that. But don't get mad when ever i'm bored to death and decide to talk to someone else.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Friday, JANUARY 16, 2009

My dad came down from Tennessee. It was supposed to be my Dad, my brother Adam, and my sister Mikala but Adam had some school activities he had to attend so he couldn't come down. I thought they would get here at 12pm but I should have known with my Dad. lol. They ended up getting to Hattiesburg at 9:30 am. They waited for a while to come to my house because Tyler was still in school. I think they came over a little after 12pm. Anyway, My dad ended up telling me that he had invited a bunch of people to my house to stay the night. Naturally, I was a little freaked out because we don't have that much room here and I was a little worried with just my dad's three. Plus our heat is screwed up so we are using portable heaters and I was afraid that any extra company might freeze to death. It ended up not being too bad though. It was just 3 of my cousins from his side of the family. Mariah (13 yo), Lexi (12 yo), and Riley(9 yo). Around 1:30pm My dad sent me to pick up some groceries for dinner. He ended up making chicken and dumplings, macaroni and cheese, English pea salad, and deviled eggs. While I was out I decided to pick up Tyler from school. He was excited to see Mikala since I had forgot to mention to him that they would be coming down. When we got home my dad showed me how to make chicken and dumplings which was a lot easier than I had thought it would be. Dustin usually gets home from work early on Fridays but there was this huge thing that happened that day so he didn't get home until after 5pm. After dinner, Dad left to go get the kids. They were all going to see Twilight that night. I just figured that I would be able to get in bed early since I had been up since 5 am and they were going to the 9pm movie. Haha...no. Somewhere between my dad offering to pay for mine and Dustin's tickets and offering to keep my 3 kiddos, I got talked into taking them. I had been wanting to see Twilight again anyway. It turned out to be a lot of fun. The kids were really funny. And they were very respectful. I usually don't like other peoples kids because they sometimes can be brats. What? Well...I'm just saying! Anyway, After the movie I was a little wired. I had eaten a few pieces of reece's pieces and drank a Dr Pepper. I usually don't eat a lot of chocolate or drink a lot of coke. So add in the not much sleep and I was pretty much your average drunk person. Well, a loud and obnoxious one anyway. When we were leaving the theater someone honked at us and when I got a better look I saw that it was my mom. My mom, Aunt Marcia, and Loriee had went to the movies that night as well. We went over and talked for a minute but it was freezing cold out. As we were leaving the parking lot my mom ended up getting behind us and honking really loudly. It scared the kids in the car and I realized they didn't know it was my mom. SO I rolled down the window and started screamin' stuff like "What's your problem, Lady?" and "Don't make me get out of this car cuz I will!" She started yelling back. It was pretty funny. And the kids were freaking out. Anyway, we got this random idea to go to walmart and buy another heater. I was afraid that the kids would be cold. Haha...I'm so motherly. :) Walmart was hilarious. And that's pretty much all I can say about it. I pretty much do not need to go out in public after 11pm. Especially when I am that hyper. We made it home all in one piece thank God. So I got the kids settled in and Dustin set up their heater. After all that, I could not go to sleep. I ended up staying up the rest of the night watching a movie. Needless to say I had a huge headache the next day and did not want to get up at all.

What the flip?

I got a flip. I love it. It's really easy to use. If you are not sure what is it just check out whattheflip.com. I have gotten some really cute videos. Usually though, I will get the cutest video and then some one will do something really perverted and then I can't show it. *Ahem...Dustin* And then I got a few more that were funny but...No one wants me to show them to anyone.

It's so not fair. I think that if you guys don't want me to show them then you should stop being so funny.

And the funniest part is that I can't video anything without laughing. So the entire time you can hear obnoxious laughter in the back ground.

Hopefully, I will get better and stop laughing so much. Or at least maybe I will learn how to do it quietly.

And something else...

I love XM radio. I have found that now I don't really want to leave my car. And I have been writing more. Mostly in the car. Not while driving though. That's bad. It only took me once to almost wreck to decide that it's probably not a good idea. But I have been inspired. Maybe not just by the XM radio but other stuff.

Everything has been sort of cloudy lately. But now it's starting to clear up. It's not completely clear but I can see the rays of sun shining through and that makes me hopeful. And really that's what you need to get better.

I'm getting better. So don't be so worried. (Mom!)

Thursday, January 15, 2009

A few things.

1. I am really excited about my Dad, Adam, and Mikala coming down tomorrow.

2. I have been craving pineapple all week. Pineapple dip, Pineapple pizza, Pineapple smoothie that had a horrible taste after I paid $3 for it. What's that about?

3. I am super excited that my favorite tight jeans are not fitting anymore because they are too big and are falling off!

4. I have had 10 people compliment me in person this week about my weight loss. Freakin Sweet!

5. I am so looking forward to summer. It just hit me all of a sudden. I want to be outside and not freezing. At least living here I don't have to wait that long because spring is pretty much like summer. Just not as hot.

6. I love all of my children but I would like to brag on just one of them for a minute. Maybe it's because she is the baby but she is totally adorable. She has the cutest personality. She is so funny and smart. She's only 2 but she acts like she knows everything. Usually, when babies are trying to tell you something and you can't understand them then they have a melt down and cry. Not my Cadee. She will repeat it over and over until "you" understand what she is saying. She will say yes or no until you get it. Looking at you like you are an idiot. And her laugh. She has the cutest laugh I have ever heard. It is so deep. Almost like how Santa Clause would say HoHoHo. Except she says HaHaha. And she does this fake cry when she doesn't get her way. It is so funny because you know it's fake. I can't help but to laugh. And she talks so good for her age. She knows everything. I just can't understand what she is saying part of the time. Mostly because she is trying to talk in a full sentence using big words for a 2 year old. And she gets so tickled about the funniest things. And usually it will be very random. One night she was playing on the floor and I snorted my nose at her and she died laughing for like 10 minutes. Saying "eww gross! Mommy's a pig." I love being a mommy. And all these things are exactly the reason why.

Wednesday, January 14, 2009

I've been thinking a lot about love lately.

I'm going to go ahead and warn you. This blog is a little all over the place. But it wouldn't be mine if it wasn't. :)

Love. It's a great thing. It can inspire us. It can change us. It can change our motivation for living. Love is about putting another person before yourself. Caring about another person regardless of how it affects you.

I know you all have probably heard this before regardless of if you read the bible or not.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Reading back over that scripture it really makes me think. How has my love been lately? Has it been patient with my children? Has it been kind to my husband? Has it chosen to not be envious, boastful, and rude to my friends? What about self seeking and easily angered? I think these two go hand in hand because if we don't get what we want sometimes we are quick to get angry about it. It keeps no records of wrongs. Now how exactly does that work? Because if someone does something bad to me, I may forgive them but it will still be in there somewhere in the back of my mind. Love does not encourage bad things, its motivation is in the truth. So this is probably where I have had the most trouble with love during my lifetime. If it doesn't seem or feel right then it probably isn't. And if you have to justify it then that just proves my point. Have I been a good protector? Do I trust, hope, and try to preserve? Yeah, I think my love needs a little work.

I'm reading a new book. It's about love. One of the things that caught my attention was when it said that we need to choose to lead our heart instead of follow it. All of my life I have heard "just follow your heart." So this was a very different perspective that made total sense. If you are not leading your heart then something or someone else is. It's that simple. And usually that something or someone doesn't have your best interest at heart. In some cases it may but a lot of times it does not. Another thing that it said is that love is a decision and not just a feeling. If you really think about it then you know it is true. Obviously, it starts out as a feeling but at some point you chose to stick with it. That in turn making it a decision.

I'm also reading another book. In this book, it talks about how women are better at expressing their thoughts or feelings than men are. It says that the most common complaint in relationships from women is the inability or unwillingness of men to reveal their feelings. Some call this emotionally unavailable. I had to laugh at this a little because when I look at this applied to myself I am the total opposite of emotionally unavailable. I mean, women tend to be more open but I am even more so than the average. I am very open about my thoughts and feelings. I like to call it passionate. ;) And when I say open I mean honest. If you want to know how I feel about something all you have to do is ask and I will give you the total honest truth. I don't try to hide my feelings about things at all. But at any rate, being this way tends to cause a problem in the relationship department. And I'm not just talking about marriage. I tend to be open with other people as well. The book says in the marriage aspect to compromise. Well, duh. I hate it when I read stuff thinking it's going to be a great eye opener and then at the end I already know the answer. Maybe I'm too smart for knowledge. Yeah, we'll go with that. :)

So back to love. So what happens when you find that someone and the feelings are there you are willing to compromise and you make the decision to stay with them forever and then tragedy strikes and that person is taken away from you. And I mean by death not by the hooker down the street. Can you ever truly love again? Or will the next venture be tainted by what used to be? I'm guessing it just really depends on the people in the situation. I have a tendency to shut down when extremely bad things happen. It's like all that openness goes away for a time. And I can't feel anything. Eventually I will get better and things are great. I can be the weird crazy random me again. I sometimes worry though that what if one of those times I just get pushed over the edge and I don't recover? Hopefully I am a lot stronger than what I think I am and there is no need to worry about that.

SO since you are so enamored by me that you must read all my blogs religiously you are probably wondering what brought all this about. :)

Well, One...I think about love a lot anyway. :) Two, I am always thinking of ways to improve myself. And Three, as you know my Papa passed away a year ago in October. I'm still kind of dealing with that in my own way. And I'm sure my Nana is as well. There is an old family friend of hers that has been coming around a lot lately. He lost his wife about two years ago. He is really nice and they grew up together. They have known each other their whole lives and at one point their families lived in a duplex together. But not only is he coming around he is wanting to date her. I can't even begin to imagine what she must be feeling. Well, I probably can but who knows if I would be right. I think he is pretty serious about dating her because he is going to get dentures next week. :) It kinda sounds gross but I think it is so romantic. It's a little odd seeing him in her house but it's not awkward. He kind of fits in. Just so you know, that's not an easy task. My family is really crazy, loud, and absolutely funny but usually scares people off. Especially potential dates. But I think that the rule of thumb is that if he can keep up then he's a keeper. :) It's a little weird for me but I am so happy for her. She has been kind of feeling isolated lately and I think this is just what she needs to help her get back into alignment.

I love people. I love their stories. I wish I could just sit around all day listening to people tell me about their lives and the things they have experienced. The places they have seen. The things they have done. The good times and the bad times. Everything. Why, you ask? Well, because it matters. People matter.

You can have everything you could possibly want in the world but if you don't have love then nothing else matters. So go love somebody. :)

Thursday, January 8, 2009

25 Things

This was originally something I posted on myspace but I decided to put it here as well.

1. I have a really weird obsession with smelling things. For instance,
if I get a glass out of the cabinet, I will smell it. Yeah. It's Weird.
lol.

2. I am addicted to myspace.

3. I can not sing in public. Unless, I am in a group. But I can sing great in the car or house. But mostly in the car. I think I have stage fright. lol :)

4. I love Taylor Swift. I think she is a great song writer and I don't care what my friends think about me. lol

5. I love books. I have a huge collection that I will probably never be able to read. But I continually buy more.

6.I am a very diverse person. I like a lot of things. Some things that contradict with each other as well..

7. I love pocket knives. Or any kind of knives or swords if they look cool. I guess I got this from my Dad. lol

8. I am in love with my new car. I know that sounds bad but I'm just being honest.

9. I hate my naturally curl hair. Probably because I have never learned how to fix it curly.

10. I love the smell of coffee but I hate to drink it. I like frozen coffee drinks, though.

11. I have to drink my tea with ice. Always. I hate hot tea.

12. I am a huge Twilight fan. But not so much that I would wear glitter to the premiere. :D

13. I'm sad that all my babies are growing up and can't really be classified as babies anymore. :(

14. I miss a lot of my old friends that I have lost touch with over the years.

15. I prefer honesty always. I hate when people try to say what they
think I want to hear. Mostly because I'm weird and you can never really
assume what I want to hear. It's just best to be honest.

16. I have recently had a change of some sort to where I want to do
more outdoorsy things. Like going muddin, four wheeler riding, riding
horses, playing soccer and kick ball with the kids. And I want a gun.
I'm not really sure where that fits in. lol.

17. I absolutely HATE it when people don't use blinkers.

18.I don't watch the news. It makes me really sad when I hear about
people hurting other people. Especially Babies. And by babies I mean,
18 and younger.

19. I feel really old for only 26. Maybe I just feel drained. lol

20.I love musicals.

21.I love people. I love hearing their life stories. I think everyone should feel important and like they matter.

22. I love how different all three of my kids are. Tyler is very artsy.
Kali is a drama queen. Cadee is so polite, thoughtful, and just has a
really sweet nature. I'm still figuring her out, though.

23. I love figuring things out.

24.I love music. I could talk about music all day long.

25. I have a lot of weird qualities but overall I like who I am. And
the things I don't like...well, I just take it one day at a time and
try to work to fix it.